Escaping london: a guide to country living & avoiding regret

The allure of the countryside

The desire to leave bustling city life for a quieter existence is a timeless one. As highlighted in a recent letter to House & Garden, many are contemplating a move to the countryside, drawn by visions of vegetable patches, chickens, and a slower pace. However, the reality often proves more complex than the romantic ideal. The challenge lies in ensuring such a move genuinely enhances life, rather than becoming a source of frustration and eventual return.

Analyzing the 'why' of moving

The reasons for seeking a rural escape are varied and often deeply personal. For some, it’s a yearning to return to their roots, as experienced by Lucinda Griffith who moved from London to Wales. Others, like Phoebe Dickinson, seize an opportunity to acquire a lifelong dream home. The key point, as emphasized by Fiona, is that the move shouldn't be driven solely by a partner’s desire; a shared vision and understanding are crucial. A gradual transition, as demonstrated by Bunny Turner’s three-year renovation of her Oxfordshire rectory, can also ease the adjustment.

The time factor: a critical consideration

While the appeal of extra time and space is undeniable, it's a common misconception that moving to the country automatically grants it. The reality, as Flora Watkins, who moved to Norfolk, discovered, is that country life often brings its own demands – maintaining a property, caring for animals, and navigating longer distances. The unexpected consumption of time can lead to resentment and a questioning of the decision. Realistic expectations are vital.

Location, location, location: beyond the pretty villages

Choosing the right location is paramount. It’s not simply about picturesque villages; consider your needs and preferences. While strolling through fields might not appeal, proximity to a theatre or a train station connecting to a city could. Factors like driving distance, land responsibility, shop access, and school quality all warrant careful consideration. Researching school districts is particularly important if you have children, and investigate funding for special educational needs if applicable.

Avoiding the post-move blues

The timeframe for settling in appears to be around three years, according to accounts of those who have moved and subsequently returned. This highlights the importance of patience and perseverance. Loneliness and isolation can be significant challenges, particularly in close-knit communities. Building connections, joining local groups, and maintaining city-based friendships can help mitigate these feelings. Addressing potential issues like a poorly chosen school or a demanding renovation project early on is also essential.

Practical tips for a smooth transition

Before making the leap, consider renting first to test the waters. When undertaking a renovation, prioritize essential areas like bedrooms and bathrooms to create a sense of stability. Designating a storage room for unpacked boxes can prevent feeling overwhelmed. Finally, remember the wisdom of Virginia Woolf: “If one lives in a village, one had better snatch at its offerings.” Embrace the opportunities presented by country living, while remaining grounded in reality.

Resources and further reading

For inspiration and information, the upcoming April issue of House & Garden focuses on country living. Harriet Baker’s Rural Hours offers glimpses into the lives of writers who embraced the countryside, while Barbara Pym’s A Few Green Leaves provides a humorous perspective on adjusting to village life. Ultimately, a successful move requires careful planning, realistic expectations, and a willingness to adapt to a new rhythm of life.

The bloomsbury legacy

The letter's author's admiration for the Bloomsbury Group is noteworthy. Their gradual transition to East Sussex, initially during wartime, provides a compelling example of a measured shift from city life. This contrasts with impulsive moves driven solely by romantic notions, which often prove unsustainable. Emulating their approach—a deliberate and unhurried integration into a rural environment—can be a valuable lesson for those contemplating a similar change.